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 Please don't ask stupid questions you know I won't even try to answer!

Lets see if this new form works! Hopefully I will answer questions within a week of them being asked.


  1. Missing my black leather knee boots with the 5 inch stiletto. Can you send them back please?

  2. I understand thir was going to be some slowness due to migrating to a new server but Emily said that wold occur between the ninth and thirteenth. So the uestinis did they move up the date or is there another reason the Haven went down and shows as a site not found?

    1. This would be a good blog to follow even though it is rarely updated.

      It will let you know of any issues we may be having at the Haven. We had an issue with our host who said we were behind on our payments so they shut off the site. We currently had enough to keep the site current and were dealing with them about it this afternoon.

      Emily just posted a new reply about an hour ago:

      With their own records on my side I apparently was able to do enough to get the site back online. That said, they now claim up to 24 hours for the domains to repropogate.

      After the events of the past 12 hours Rachel has decided she can no longer trust our web host to conduct business fairly and honestly. This is likely to mean changes in the costs of keeping the Haven online as things change to a new host soon.

      If you happen to have a web host you love, it wouldn't hurt to let Rachel know about them.


  3. I had the blog bookmarked but searched and couldn't find the bookmark. I'd gone there before when there were other outages. I just posted here as an alternative because i knew you'd get a notification.. By the time I saw your reply the Haven was back up and I sent you a PM there. Thanks for responding though.

  4. Hi Dee.

    Do you know if something has happened to the Haven? I can't reach it anymore.


  5. Dee,
    Do you know if one can get hypnotized to believe they are female? If so, do you have any resources or contacts? Thanks, Zoe

    1. I am dubious of many of the 'hypnotists' and 'trancers' that are online selling one-size-fits-all mp3's and video files .. each person has different reactions and what works for one listener definitely won't work for another.

      If you can find someone that does one-on-one work, perhaps that might be a way to go, but this can be considered a kink, so I'm not sure if there are professional ethics involved. I know there are definitely hypnokink meet ups in larger cities. In that realm, you might want to join FetLife if you haven't already. I know there's definitely things there that might steer you in the right direction. There are seminars and such, and you could find someone that might want to work with you, but do be wary.

      If you are wondering if you are able to be tranced, you can always search out some material online. I would probably recommend ShibbySays on Pornhub. She does a lot of hands-free orgasm stuff, ASMR, role-play, light domination, etc ... and has a great voice, and if you really like it, she's also on Patreon.

      Hope this helps. Just try to be as safe as possible though, both in your physical being, and also financially.