tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1870069212223825401.post6254169258562250721..comments2024-03-17T20:07:02.668-04:00Comments on Dee-lusions of Grandeur: Shouldn't Try to Reinvent the WheelDee Mentiahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07798903090538917010noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1870069212223825401.post-74103567304563470212013-10-06T02:10:26.660-04:002013-10-06T02:10:26.660-04:00Great work on this cap, Dee!
As for the discussio...Great work on this cap, Dee!<br /><br />As for the discussion question, I think I would take a while to adapt to my new body, if at all. I wouldn't know for sure unless it happened for real. I think it would take some female friends to force me into trying girly things, clothing, etc. One thing I am sure I might be right about is that my family might have trouble adjusting to my new altered self. I predict plenty of awkward moments among family, maybe even a few friends.sp2000https://www.blogger.com/profile/02278867538102304245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1870069212223825401.post-32425795459413739022013-10-03T08:33:46.972-04:002013-10-03T08:33:46.972-04:00Nice cap Dee. I really like the idea of a man try...Nice cap Dee. I really like the idea of a man trying to reinvent the wheel when it comes to being feminine only to realize that the wheel has existed for some time. <br /><br />On to your discussion question. With the assumption that 'suddenly' being female isn't something to be scorned by the general public I really can't see much changing about myself. Most of my 'male' mannerisms are from physical realities. For instance, I currently tend to slouch quite a bit. Why? Because I'm quite tall. I like to be eye to eye with people I'm talking with and slouching helps me not tower over people. I walk with a long powerful stride... but I have long legs and am often in a hurry. Becoming feminine would change these things, but only because my body would change. <br /><br />I believe I would try to pick up the mannerisms, quirks and eccentricities that women share in the same way that I pick up on the mannerisms, quirks, and eccentricities that men share. In other words, I wouldn't. I would let me define me instead of letting my gender define me. I am a man, but I make no effort to flaunt or accentuate that. I just can't see that changing by becoming a woman. <br /><br />Having no wife or current girlfriend certainly makes acceptance easier. Again, if this were something that was looked upon as rare but not unusual, I believe my family and friends would support me in any way that I needed supporting. I may gravitate toward a female friend more often for advice and guidance on things like clothes/style/attitudes, but it wouldn't be that different than me currently gravitating toward my male friends for those same things. <br /><br />As for the core question... how long would it take me to fully assimilate? Even with what I said, I think it would take years. Mainly because of what Simone said... I would have to get used to how the world currently views me. Getting physically used to the body would take weeks... maybe months. Adjusting my own self view would take months... maybe a year for it to really settle into my core. But getting used to being treated differently... no that would take much longer. <br />Caitlyn Maskedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02732033913089350905noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1870069212223825401.post-83756734696405651002013-10-03T01:29:50.764-04:002013-10-03T01:29:50.764-04:00I enjoyed the cap Dee made for me and the thoughts...I enjoyed the cap Dee made for me and the thoughts it provoked. The thing is I can actually speak with some experience being a male to female pre-op. You may know you're a woman inside but you've spent years assimilating the mannerisms and cult of male. It's very difficult for that not to pop up in your daily life. The fact is men seldom notice when you're a bit off but women will zoom in on it like a heat seeking missile. yet at the same time they are more forgiving if you bend the gender role as they do it all the time (according to men) but bend it too much and men will finally notice and not in a good way.<br /> But to answer the question I can say the 20 years ago this question would have been more vital than now. You can maintain a lot of 'man'nerisms without question, even be one of the guys but the fact is THEY never forget you are a woman. The problem is YOU forgetting you were a man. Adaptation will never succeed as long as you don't internally accept the fact. Once you do then others will also. All the rst is like learning to ride a bicycle.Dawnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08051651954828312392noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1870069212223825401.post-24512091253631220892013-10-02T23:34:32.645-04:002013-10-02T23:34:32.645-04:00Exactly the sort of insights I was looking for.
J...Exactly the sort of insights I was looking for.<br /><br />Just how you hold yourself physically, sitting and walking would be hard to adapt. You would have a different sort of center of balance. I knew a FtM and she was having trouble with her "power walk" as she called it, standing tall, with a wider stride and different posture as a man. Vocal inflections are another thing that might take a bit of time to work on.Dee Mentiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07798903090538917010noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1870069212223825401.post-38884095448350123382013-10-02T22:44:56.963-04:002013-10-02T22:44:56.963-04:00I think the toughest part of the assimilation woul...I think the toughest part of the assimilation would be adjusting to how the world views me. All the other stuff is somewhat choice. I could choose to wear makeup or choose to wear dresses. I could be "feminine" in the way society expect or I can be more of a tomboy. However, just because you are a woman alone would change peoples perception of you. People would treat you differently on that basis. How someone would talk to you as opposed to a male. How they act in public around you. How would it be to have someone objectify you. All of THAT would be the tough part. <br /><br />As for the mannerism and quirks; all of that would be based on attitude. I would either have to accept that it will take work and just understand I will mess up for a while. If my attitude is horrid, it's going to take longer and be a bigger pain. Realistically i think it would take a few years to "get" it. I think after that I could walk around and be accepted without a second glance but beyond that it would require a while to get things good on all fronts.Mistress Simonehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03830472323307586514noreply@blogger.com