tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1870069212223825401.post4833548268687108070..comments2024-03-28T03:27:26.345-04:00Comments on Dee-lusions of Grandeur: "Dear God" .. hope you got the letter, and...Dee Mentiahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07798903090538917010noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1870069212223825401.post-65744311607565943082015-04-13T18:08:11.745-04:002015-04-13T18:08:11.745-04:00Just a quick response because I missed this when y...Just a quick response because I missed this when you posted: I am a Christian. I am totally in your corner!<br /><br />I do not think that the shitty fundamentalist bullshit that uses the Bible to denigrate and exclude and judge speaks for Christianity and I worry about the Indiana decision. In the USA it looks as though shitty people will use religion as a fig leaf (ha) to cover their naked bigotry and, elsewhere, that decision will make more people view God-fearing folk less generously and with greater suspicion. My own brother and his wife talk some shit about LGBTQ folk, my favourite is that "God doesn't make mistakes" - which they use to justify a mistrust and dislike of trans* folk - but, here's the thing, if God makes no mistakes then God created trans* folk. They were created, I feel, to test everyone else - to seek out their compassion and understanding.<br /><br />Alas, the world does not like being challenged and tested. We prefer rugged individualism and 'merit' so we throw the challenge back on those who would present it for daring to be different. Ugh.<br /><br />Semi-political rant out of the way, you have my sympathy, such as it is, for what's been sent back about your daughter. And my support (as far as you require it) for your approach. As a Christian I pray it is all for the best (whatever that may be) and that it works as it should for you all.<br /><br />Thank you for sharing. I wish I could say more or do more, but I cannot, I can but stand in support and solidarity, and that is all.<br /><br />JoannaJoanna Colehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03765570687013090805noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1870069212223825401.post-49222620536226341092015-04-12T00:04:07.203-04:002015-04-12T00:04:07.203-04:00Can i just say as a transgender woman who wishes m...Can i just say as a transgender woman who wishes more than anything in the world to be able ti give birth to my own children that this is beautiful and glad i had the chance to read it, my heart goes out to you and your daughter and i feel your pain as much as someone like me can, i hope things work out for both of you Stephhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08264864515003756650noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1870069212223825401.post-66081953971137562132015-04-07T17:12:22.914-04:002015-04-07T17:12:22.914-04:00The people, in general, are decent enough when the...The people, in general, are decent enough when they aren't following dogmatic crap that went out of style hundreds of years ago. I just don't think that you should be modeling your current existence based on a book written 5000, 2000, 1200 or 60 years ago. While history does repeat itself, time moves on and you cannot replicate the past.<br /><br />I am probably agnostic in theory. I have done much research on the "lost" gospels and into the "Q" or Quelle . which seems to be a lost book that was the other major source for the Gospels of Matthew and Luke and focused on direct quotes from Jesus and his teachings. <br /><br />Christianity itself is an interesting topic, because Jesus was a Jew who preached Jewish apocalyptic teachings to other Jews. After his death, the following (mostly due to Paul) became ABOUT Jesus more so than what he spoke, and was geared more towards the gentiles, aka non-Jews. The Catholics seem to view the book more as a set of morality tales, while the more conservative Protestants see the book as the inerrant words of God, which makes no sense on a real level, since there are many contradictions among the Gospels, and old and new testament.Dee Mentiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07798903090538917010noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1870069212223825401.post-33119617077102418142015-04-07T17:01:03.988-04:002015-04-07T17:01:03.988-04:00She was told that she might be able to do it that ...She was told that she might be able to do it that way in the future, but there was no guarantee it would work and it can be quite costly to do so, since I'm not sure if health insurance covers fertility procedures.<br /><br />As for adoption, see my reply above. That also happens a lot to gay couples, regardless of their financial means. In Boston, the Catholic Church pulled out of Catholic Charities Adoptive Services due to a law that said that gay couples had to be considered as adoptive families. They had been contracted through the state but didn't want to comply with the law, which was backed by then-governor and recent Republican Presidential Candidate Mitt Romney. Dee Mentiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07798903090538917010noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1870069212223825401.post-71981606052194880722015-04-06T12:40:31.051-04:002015-04-06T12:40:31.051-04:00Dee,
I don’t know what to say about your daughter...Dee,<br /><br />I don’t know what to say about your daughter. I’m sorry that an option for her is now an incredibly difficult if not outright impossible option. I can’t imagine going through something like that as either the person themselves, or the parent of said person. I hope that she has a long happy full life. With or without children. <br /><br />I have a couple who are both good friends of mine. I learned almost a year after they got married (had known them for almost a decade before), that she had a condition which made it almost impossible for her to carry a child to term. I won’t go into her specific problem, but it was something that they both simply had to accept… there was very little chance for them to ever have a child. <br /><br />Today they are the proud parents of not one, but two children. So at the very least keep in mind that “quite unlikely to have babies on her own” is not the same thing as “unable to have babies”. If that’s her choice, then I hope she successfully gets pregnant. <br /><br />As for the gay bashing (yeah, I call it as I see it too). It’s just fucked up. You are more than perfectly justified in sharing your opinion ESPECIALLY on Easter Sunday. I’m not Christian or an Athiest. I’m firmly in the agnostic category (forever a fence sitter am I). Even without a firm faith or belief structure of my own, I love seeing people celebrate their religion. It’s generally Good, charitable, Good, loving, Good, kind, and did I mention Good? I think it’s Good so long as they don’t want to force others to live as they do. I don’t even mind them proselytizing. I mean, if they consider their life and their faith and their belief to be good, why wouldn’t they try to convert others. It’s a wonderful thing when someone learns about your religion/faith and not only accepts it but chooses to live by its tenants as well. But that discussion should end if and when the person they are proselytizing to states that they don’t want to live as they do. When any people/person/faith/religion starts to FORCE others, then it is the very opposite of Good. It’s Bad. It’s Evil. <br /><br />And by ‘force’ I don’t just mean physically or legally forcing someone to live by their rules. I mean forcing others through shunning, humiliation, shaming, and other nonchalant bigoted/sexist/racist remarks and actions. <br /><br />I find it ironic that most of the people that believe in setting up the United States of America as a firmly Christian nation with laws that follow Christ’s teachings are also so firmly against Muslim nations and even ISIL. ISIL is an organization that has a strong faith and belief structure and are forcing others to live by the way they interpret their religion. Just like those Christian bastards are trying to do over here. <br /><br />Fuck Them. <br /><br />The only solace I can take is that I’ve found the vast majority of Christians are good decent people. No, they don’t believe in people living outside of their religion, but they also don’t believe in discriminating against anybody on the basis of what any religion says. It’s their leaders that are starting up a new Crusade. <br /><br />I think one of the most meaningful relationships I had was with an incredibly devout Christian. He knew that I didn’t have faith in his or any other God, that I believed in equality for all with no variation on sexual, gender, or racial issues, and that I firmly believed in a clear and distinct separation of Church and State. Yet while I would see him proselytizing to others, he never tried to ‘convert’ me. When I outright asked him why he said something along the lines of “Why would I or God try to convert you? You are a Good person living a Good life. Our attentions are needed for people who require help”. <br /><br />That’s deep. Help people who need help. If you can help them with your religion, then so be it. If you can’t, then still help them out however they need it. <br />Caitlyn Maskedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02732033913089350905noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1870069212223825401.post-33179268372875399612015-04-06T12:31:07.013-04:002015-04-06T12:31:07.013-04:00first may i thankyou for a thought provoking capti...first may i thankyou for a thought provoking caption and post.<br /> I am very sorry to read of your daughters issues but do not despair just yet. there are many ways to help nature along when and if the time is right for her. there are fertility drugs and technichs to aid things. And then I F treatment. i thank that for two wonderful nieces and as Ambyr mentions adoption what a beautiful gift to give any child. i can't say i'm an expert on the above but maybe routes to persue.<br /> its a hard life being a libreral isnt it since by definition we have to defend the rights even of those against us,<br />and its easy to use that as they argue we are the bigots against them.<br /> No easy answer save stand up for what you belive, speak out when you can. and suport groups and politians with your own creedo. Abit hard from the UK to know the situation but the Church appears from here to be a radical right wing, are there more liberal humanistic churches? <br /> Do we have to become radical liberals and play thier game I hope not but we should be pro active.<br /> Ianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11089075373700373443noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1870069212223825401.post-5172371374724700972015-04-06T11:44:49.299-04:002015-04-06T11:44:49.299-04:00That would be an option, but once again, there are...That would be an option, but once again, there are rules as to what is considered a normal home, so she would have to deal with an adoption agency which would determine the "morals" among other things that determine whom is fit to be an adoptive parent(s) .. something that a "normal married (man and woman) couple" conceiving naturally wouldn't have to deal with.Dee Mentiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07798903090538917010noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1870069212223825401.post-26608809713073093082015-04-06T09:50:01.358-04:002015-04-06T09:50:01.358-04:00Your post is perfectly right, other than where you...Your post is perfectly right, other than where you imply you could only be a grandparent via childbirth. I'm guessing you didn't mean to slight adoption as a viable alternative.Ambyrhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03242007721279630682noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1870069212223825401.post-76842412708871310652015-04-06T00:44:42.490-04:002015-04-06T00:44:42.490-04:00Thank you for this post.Thank you for this post.Dr. Psychohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05674134879261502504noreply@blogger.com